MY FEELINGS ABOUT DOLLY'S FUNERAL
What has made me so sad about Dolly's passing,
is that Janet, her daughter, did not see fit to let me (or Amy) know. Even if
Doll had said not to let me know, at least she could have phoned, or sent a
note saying that Doll had passed away, but that I should not go to the funeral.
When Doll, Fred and I were talking, I did say to them that I would not go to
any funerals, but that I would visit a month or so after. That's when everyone
seems to forget the bereaved. Doll said that that is what happened after Harry,
her first husband, died. I didn't go to Chas's funeral last Wednesday.
I have wondered whether Doll did get my letter
last January. This is what I wrote. As she died from lung cancer,
was she in hospital for a while? And, if so, why did no-one say? What am I to
think of the family? As I have said before - I had a go at Ivor - but, at the
time, Doll was just as angry at him as I was. And, Janet knows exactly what
Ivor and Karen did, and how it affected me - Karen gave me a
heart attack - nearly killed me.
Mischa stole my car,
but I told him of
Lesley's passing.
Kevin had upset Lesley before going to America, but I told him of Lesley's passing.
I hate Chloe, but I told
her of Lesley's passing.
Janet, most of all, has hurt me by not telling me of Dolly's passing.
Janet knows, full well, how close Dolly and I
were.
For instance - I had my heart attack in February 1991, and I was very depressed
for seven months after. Janet phoned me and asked me to go down from
Janet told Ivor about Doll's passing - and he
was the one who always ridiculed Doll and Fred. But, he ridicules everyone
behind their back, and sucks up to them to their face!
I sold my flat in 1995 and moved into
sheltered housing. The sale left me with a reasonable sum. Ivor phoned me to
ask if I wanted to go to Gunton Hall,
All this said by the man who said that I had
more mouth than a cow had 'count--ry life style'!
Why am I saying all this? Because I feel hurt.
That I, who have never done anything wrong to Dolly, should be treated so,
while people who have no good words to say about Dolly, Fred and Doll's family,
are made welcome………….. and there's more for later!
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When Ivor told me about
Janet's "tin pot" business, he also said about how Janet had twice
been on the verge of bankruptcy because she had not paid the income tax and
VAT. She had to scrounge money from Doll and Fred. He revelled in tearing her
down. As an accountant I saw businesses in trouble and having to ask relatives
to give a helping hand. I saw no shame in it.
From my point of view, I saw Janet as a 'drama
queen', but then we all have our personalities. I am a load mouthed big head -
and I'll never change - as that's a small price to pay for not being a
hypocrite!
OK, I have an axe to grind! What puzzled me
was that Janet often took Doll and Fred out to dinner and spent over £200 (
with £100 on wine?). Sounds good that she treated Doll and Fred. But, they
would go home and Doll would be afraid of putting on the gas fire because she
would not be able to pay the bill. Dolly and Jimmy were good to Doll and Fred.
They each gave them £50/month to help them, and I believe that they paid the
phone bill as well.
Doll could be a 'strange' person to deal with.
She seemed unable to face adversity. If she was confronted with a problem, she
adopted the 'head in sand' strategy. I love her, but it was frustrating trying
to understand her. I'll tell a couple of endearing stories later. Although, in
time, I would have told some stories about Dolly, I would never have 'dished
the dirt' if I had not been treated so about Dolly's passing.
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Saturday, 28 June 2003. I
have just heard that Fred, Doll's husband, died two months before Dolly. He was
eighty this year. No-one told me. I always liked Fred, he was down to earth.
Though, I must say that he did not like being 'bossed about' by Dolly! No
football on TV, and no TV after 8pm. Only word and card games. "It keeps
our brains active", was the reason! Poor sod, just wanted to watch
football! I bought him a little electronic game machine, and Doll did not like
him using that. Oh well, it's all over now. I expect that when I wrote to Fred and
Dolly in January, they were both quite ill. I wonder if they got my
letter? Evidently, Dolly died of breast cancer, not lung cancer.
"The
Buckets" were at Doll's funeral. Karen is as big an arsehole as
ever. At thirty she is not able to get a boy friend. No wonder - when she has
vinegar in her veins instead of blood! (Wonder if she's 'gone the other way'?!)
They say that 3,500 people die in road accidents in the UK every year. Why is
it always the wrong people? (Yes - I do feel that bitter! Though I am nice with
it!)
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